• One of the best ways of finding your perfect partner is online dating. Whichever site you choose, they are all for the same reason, to meet that lovely guy/gal to spend time, or if you're at that stage, then maybe your life with.  If you are pondering whether the world of online dating is for you, then read on...


    The best piece of advice I can give generally, is make sure you have a nice profile photo. Particularly a clear photo of your face with a big smile. The amount of compliments I had about my smile as icebreakers was unreal. 

    In terms of general use of the sites, I found that Sunday evenings seems to be the best day for striking up conversations with your matches. Think everyone is all a bit more chilled out, but also if you start chatting on a Sunday, you may even get a date the following Saturday!

    Here is a round up of mine and my single gal friend's experience of some of the popular dating sites around:

    Tinder

    This is one of the hot new way to meet people, but it is primarily aimed at 20 somethings. Tinder is trying to get away from it's reputation as a casual hook up site, but unfortunately one of my friends met a guys on there and he turned out to be married. I think obviously for some that is how the site is still viewed. Luckily, she caught him out early doors, but not before she had developed feelings for him. So I guess as with anyone you meet on the internet keep an open mind until you get to know them.

    Match. com

    I found this a very popular way to meet people. I have several friends who have met on Match and they have met 'the one'. 

    I did really like Match and there were lots of compatible matches. The only downside I found abut that was that I found it was a bit too much for me in terms of all the winking and profile view messages. Don't get me wrong lots of Matches is a good thing. I'm just a generally disorganise person and I just found I couldn't keep up with who I had replied to. 

    The only other downside is you can see if the other person is online or not, so it kind of felt pressured to reply to that person. Maybe that is just me though and I shouldn't care about replying to someone I haven't even met yet. 

    Eharmony

    Be prepared for lots and lots and lots of profile questions! It took me hours to fill everything in, but I wanted to get the best out of the experience, so I did as they asked (so unlike me!). 

    In terms of what you can do before you can subscribe is better than some sites as you can start to communicate, you just can't see photographs unless subscribe. So, unless you really do like a blind date, you will want to subscribe. 

    There are two main steps before messaging. E.g. Your ideal Saturday night. Ideal date. Then turn on/turn offs. Or can make up own questions/answers. It's nicely paced, so you can decide if you are suited before diving into chat, which is nice. It is extremely slow on the back and forth before you even get to the conversation part (although you can skip the warm up questions). The advice when you sign up is to subscribe for 3 months - you can see why! 

    One thing I noticed about Eharmony, was that the people seemed to be more educated, in good jobs and with more emotional intelligence than the other sites. Maybe that was just my experience though. 



    It wouldn't feel right writing this post with the usual jazz about meeting in a safe place and make sure you tell a friend where and when you are meeting. Online dating is great fun and can be the way to meet your ideal partner, but not everyone online is who they say they are, so be careful peeps. 


    Have you tried online dating? How did it work out for you? Did you try a different site? 

    Lots of love, 
    Helen xoxo